Monster thought COVID-19 was a lie. Then three people in his family died from cancer and his nephew in Tecate died from respiratory failure due to complications from COVID-19 just two days after being admitted to a hospital. Other people living in the park see him as a father figure. He has a calming effect on some of the younger, more energetic locals, especially when they are high. He has trouble with joint pain as he gets older. Some days it’s hard getting up and out of the bed he fashioned in the back of his vehicle. His dream is to own a furniture shop or sell cars so he can help support this daughter and shower his grandchildren with gifts.
Read MoreWhen the pandemic lockdown restrictions were first enacted in March, Rose, 21, and her boyfriend were suddenly locked out of the park they called home. The worst part was not being able to shower for long periods of time. If you were getting pretty ripe, and the bathrooms were open, you could scare up a bird bath type of washing. Or, if you had a pair of pliers, you could open up any random water spigot.
Read MoreTito is used to staying in the shadows, or with family or friends until he wears out his welcome. It’s a routine that was embedded into his lifestyle at an early age. He was born in Oregon, but his mother ended up homeless in San Diego, living in a tent on the street when he was still a baby. Once his mother found work they were able to secure housing. “Southeast raised me real hard,” he said. His goal is to get his GED and find a way to make a sustainable income. “This life is relentless,” he said. “It’s horrible to be homeless.”
Read MoreRosie has a message for other people who have struggled with balancing homelessness, family complexities and mental instability. She also has a message for housed people who cling to stereotypes about people experiencing homelessness. Family is not the people who kicked you out when you were down. Nor the husband who told your kids you abandoned them. Family is the network of strangers who gave you medications and a place to live, a routine and eventually a housing voucher.
Read MorePeople experiencing shame develop mechanisms for dealing with those emotions. One such mechanism is to disavow a connectivity between our injured, vulnerable true self and the uncomfortable experience, Another is by adopting Jung's archetypical Persona mask, presenting a different face to the world and to ourselves. Yet another method is numbing ourselves from the consequences of feeling shame. However in doing so we risk creating a more permanent version of the false self, leaving us dangerously out of touch with our true self. Perhaps an even greater danger is the risk of ingesting whatever narrative caused the shame in the first place, such that we begin to believe that that negative narrative represents our true self.
Read MoreScott has an incredibly positive attitude. He is outspoken in seeking help from caregivers at St. Vincent de Paul where he has been in and out and in again over the years, and at the Transitional Storage Center operated by Think Dignity.
Asked if he was a military veteran, Scott replied “I don’t remember. But I’m going to have them look into that and see.” He then ran through a list of traumatic situations and mental health issues that combine to overwhelm his well-being. “Death in the family, separation of family, um, bipolar, schizophrenia, um, hypertension deficit disorder, um learning disorder, and just a long time of institutionalized, and so it’s just a lot. But, I haven’t given up, my friends haven’t given up on me. People haven’t given up on me, churches haven’t given up on me, and my brains ain’t beat in.” He holds up an I.D. card with a clean-shaven version of his face. “I want to get back to this guy,” he said.
Rick sees the glass half full rather than half empty. He loves working in cabinetry where he can use his construction skills, and work with his hands to create something beautiful. But when the army veteran learned his back might need surgery, he had to stop working, and could no longer pay rent. His marriage went south, and Rick found himself on the street. He recently found his way indoors with the PATH program, which is helping his puzzle together a way of staying indoors, while he schedules his back surgery and applies for SSI.
Read MoreKim Chow, 62, was the oldest of six siblings. Her mother didn’t want her and Kim was sent to live with an uncle in California, where she joined a brood of eight girl cousins and a protective grandmother with fiery red hair. Chow ended up on the streets of San Diego in 1979 and made the strip bars and party scene her home, developing a penchant for fashionable clothes that she sustained by turning tricks. She had fashionable friends as well, who brought her to auto races and kept her in name brand high heels. She has seen both good and bad on the streets, she said, and one of her favorite memories is convincing two sisters to give up street life and go back home.
Read MoreRene is a "people person." She thrived as a caregiver, and doted on her two daughters. She says hello to everyone who walks by her spot on a sidewalk in North Park, around the corner from her favorite liquor store. When she has extra cash she shares it with her fellow street dwellers. Raised in Pacific Beach, a graduate of Mesa College, she hasn't moved far from her origins, but her life now is a far cry from what she describes as a childhood of privilege. A series of traumas caused her emotional dive into vodka. But she is cutting back these days, she says, and craves stable housing so she can start working again.
Read MoreMontana, 32, rode the rails and hitch-hiked his way to San Diego through snow-capped mountains in boxcars and sitting atop piles of rebar, to be near his two sons. He saw his boys nearly every day, taking them to the park to play soccer, the beach — mostly what they could do together that didn’t cost anything. Then he got stung by a bee one day, as he and the boys were on their way to the park. Dizzy, due to his bee allergy, he had the boys lead him back to their house, where he slept it off on the couch. His ex, however, was not pleased, and told him he couldn’t see the kids any more. This was a crushing blow, since the kids were his reason to be in San Diego. He has toyed with the idea of returning to Montana, taking the bus this time, or moving further north, while holding out hope he will get a reprieve and be able to hang out with his sons again.
Read MoreNorth Park Marc, 49, is a complex being. Soft-hearted, and eager to be kind, he chides his park dwelling colleagues when they swear in the company of women and children, he is also active in his church doing clean ups, working as security, leading youth groups on tours of homeless encampments and whatever his pastor has “voluntold” him to do. He has a short fuse, however, when it comes to tweakers using or selling narcotics in the park, and refusing to seek help and services. At the same time, he prefers living outside to ever being part of a program with rules in exchange for a roof over his head. Once active with a skinhead group that attacked gay men in Hillcrest, he now counts several gay men and women among his friends. A six-year veteran of the US Marines, Marc maintains a military-style workout routine for keeping fit.
Read MoreTiffany wants her child back. After a life in and out of foster care herself, she doesn’t want the baby that was taken from her six months ago to grow up with the same experiences she endured. A ward of the state till she was age 22, Tiffany struggled with mental health issues, addiction and homelessness. After having six other children, three of whom died either in childbirth or soon after, she is committed to creating a stable situation for herself, get an education, and find a way to build a day center for homeless youth.
Read MoreHoney (Lakeesha), 39, and dalmatian puppy Jalila share a tent in the park. They have saved each other’s life, at least once. Honey moved into the park at a low point when she and her husband split up and her part time job faded away when the business owner sold out to another company. So she gathered her belongings and set up camp. The recent heavy rains wreaked havoc with her tent, sending it spinning, soaking her belongings. As a single woman, she is vulnerable. She has had many things stolen from her, including a nice bicycle. She’s been sexually assaulted more than once. After Honey saved Jalila from the people who were abusing her, and Jalila tugged Honey away from a freeway bridge, during a moment of despair when she contemplated jumping. Nowadays, the two are inseparable.
Read MoreTwo Hawks, 78, grew up on the reservation in Deadwood, South Dakota, the oldest of five. He spoke his native Lakota language until forced to learn English as a young teenager. At age 17 he was drafted, became a U.S. Marine trained in special forces and was sent to Vietnam where he was involved in many intense, high profile battles. He returned with two bullets still in his body, a broken spirit and having lost two of his younger brothers to the war. “War will screw you up. I still have nights where I don’t sleep,” he said. Two Hawks lost his job and his house when he started drinking to deal with the loss of his wife.
Read MoreMary and Toby migrated to San Diego after some trouble in the Orange County riverbeds where they were living. Mary was sexually assaulted and Toby was shot. And someone killed their cat. Toby has mental health issues and Mary has trouble keeping him on his medications because they don’t always have enough money for his prescriptions. So he lapses into psychotic episodes than can be abusive to either her or other people around them.
Read MoreSheri has a degree in geriatrics from USC. She grew up in California in a big family and was happily married for nearly 30 years to a man she calls the “love of my life.” Over the years the couple had nine children, all of whom she said are successful people, either in careers or studying in college. She made one mistake. That mistake changed everything. She ended up being lured into a relationship with someone she met online; who convinced her she was in love with him and to leaver her husband and move in with the stranger.
Read MoreAngel is a regular feature in Hillcrest, selling her paintings and drawings, smiling bright enough to light up the holiday lights adorning the trees along Fifth Avenue. Born in Illinois, raising five children while her husband worked designing heart monitors in northern Ohio. After 30 years of marriage and the kids almost through college, her husband got a job working for Hughes Aircraft and the couple moved to Los Angeles. They bought a home with a pool and three-car garage. Ten days later he died of a heart attack. Angel sunk into a depression, selling the house, paying off her kids’ college fees and jumped a southbound bus. She’s been on and off the street for the past ten years, living one day at a time, struggling against violence and theft, but always trying to stay positive.
Read MoreOnce again, the family of Bob McElroy, president and CEO of the Alpha Project for the Homeless, brought Christmas cheer to the hundreds of people living in the downtown homeless tent shelter by spending Christmas Eve serving dinner to the tent residents. The very youngest members of the extended family scooped handfuls of candy onto residents’ plates and were treated to a peak at the three puppies that were born the day before to one of the tent resident’s small dog. Adult members scooped ham, potatoes and vegetables onto residents’ plates while Santa strolled around taking selfies with everyone. As always, the First Family of compassion brought the greatest gifts of all to those most in need: the gift of their time.
Read MoreJeanine has a kind word and a sandwich for any hungry stranger who knocks on her camper shell door…. at a reasonable hour. A transplant from Ohio, where she started life in an orphanage, and was then delivered to her father when he was released from prison, Jeanine is a strong-willed woman who has no shame recounting all the stages of her life leading from Ohio to a truck in San Diego. Jeanine was turned over to her father at age 13. She quickly learned he was a sexual predatory and ran away, leaving her brothers to suffer that abuse. She stayed with an aunt, but was kidnapped into prostitution; escaped that, but was re-introduced into prostitution by a boyfriend. “I got stories!” she said, recounting the episodes of her life. She spent some quality time with a foster family that helped her develop a strong character. She broke both feet jumping out of a window. After hitchhiking her way to Atlanta, she escaped another abusive boyfriend by earning enough money selling ice cream, to buy a one-way ticket on Greyhound to Hollywood. Two years later she was cleaning hotel rooms and working the night shift at a downtown restaurant in San Diego.
Read MoreRichard Garcia, 53, broke his leg 15 months ago stepping through a hole in the street. Because of that he lost his job, couldn’t pay rent on the room he was living in and ended up living in a friend’s car. A construction worker with licenses for truck and forklift driving as well as carpentry skills, he checks online with agencies throughout the week looking for openings. He often has high school students stop and ask him about homelessness, an opportunity for which he is grateful, he said. He tells them he sees young people on the street strung out on drugs who have no future, and that he lost two jobs before he realized he had to quit doing drugs himself if he wanted to amount to anything. Garcia is grateful for the smallest donation people give, whether food or money, he said. He keeps his clothes and body clean and gets his haircut at the college barber so if he gets that call to work he’s ready.
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